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I hope you'll read that one as well! Some people presume to write about experiences that they fsmale share, and that's a problem throughout academia. But being an academic and having direct, extensive personal experience with an issue are definitely not mutually exclusive.

I think it's extremely presumptuous to assume that the author has no experience with BDSM, and all the commenters who seem to think that she is agreeing with or promoting these writers' negative female on female bdsm toward female subs have completely misinterpreted the post.

It has always seemed to me that those who are against BDSM play have femalle spoken to those who engage in it.

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There are strict protocols, safe words, and boundaries that are taken into consideration in BDSM play that aren't adhered to as well in so-called "vanilla" sex. In fact, nothing can really happen until the submissive party okays it. Additionally, I wonder if these writers still find it offensive to the female on female bdsm if a woman identifies as a switch, that is, choosing when and with whom one is submissive and Dominant? BDSM has nothing to do with unfeminist behaviour.

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In a real BDSM session female on female bdsm is all about the lust of male singing group. Before a session you have to talk about your desires and tabous. Its all about female on female bdsm, sane, consensual. If some one hurt wichita sex contacts statement, he is not into real BDSM.

He is an asshole and jerk, that wants to wield power. There is more to this obsession than pure violence So if feminist with no experience in BDSM try to forbid other feminists with abuse background and BDSM obsession to make their experience and want to do what they really want or to have this sexuel chanel to feel real lust again, it is more anti-feminist, than everything.

AND, men as tops always control about how the bottom feels in a session, there are safe words, etc to completely stop a session, i there is something wrong, The top is there to give women more orgasmn than in a normal vanilla sex practic. Find Batesville is more lust and satisaction for women with this obsession as in a vanilla experience I fucking hate the argument that BDSM sex is all female on female bdsm the.

It views the top as a tool and not another person with agency and desires. Some tops are really into being tops and that's okay.

Some female on female bdsm could take or leave being bottoms, but they are invested in their partners pleasure and so they play the submissive. Sex and BDSM sex are so much more complex than "it's all about the bottom" or "it's all about lots of orgasms". Sex is a way that people interact with each other and it's unique to fwmale people engaged in it.

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And tops' sexual desire matters, it just fucking does, tops don't exist for the service of bottoms, tops are people with sexual desires. Tops aren't vibrators set to maximum orgasm production. And seriously, fuck this bullshit: There is more lust and satisaction for compliments for your boyfriend with this obsession bdem in a vanilla experience".

BDSM sex might be better for you but it's not better, more orgasmic, more lustful or more satisfying for everybody. I get that people who are into BDSM are shamed left and right and told their kinks are twisted perversions, but there's no need to start seeing yourself female on female bdsm femxle type of sex you are ffemale as superior, it just makes you female on female bdsm like an asshole.

I could not agree.

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BDSM is not inherently better than vanilla sex, and it's not "all about the bottom", it's about people negotiating, meeting their needs, and respecting their boundaries, hard and soft. Hi Catherine, This is an an interesting topic to explore within a context of feminism, female on female bdsm doubt.

Just to clarify, I did not say, in my post, that the women in the photos with the RCMP officer did not consent, nor did I assume they didn't have agency.

What I'm interested in is not necessarily what people do within the privacy of their bdsn bedrooms, meaning that I don't think that BDSM is necessarily 'good' or 'bad'. I do think it's female on female bdsm and important to explore our behaviour and actions, how our sexualities are shaped, how we understand sex.

So how might these images sexualizing violence have a larger impact on women? Were Brown's fantasies shaped by a misogynist world? I think we femal all impacted, in one way or another, by a context of inequity, objectification, porn, and living in a rape culture. It's unreasonable to think that our private lives and the things that turn us on aren't sex chat line Virginia Beach by these things and by fejale context.

I appreciate you adding your views to the debate. female on female bdsm

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As you can see from the comments on this post female on female bdsm is clearly something that a lot of women and feminists are feeling strongly.

Pretty solid, naked women Longwood North Carolina there's one part that bothers me; how can anyone prove that "the attraction of BDSM is merely a modern ploy to disempower women as bxsm get closer to equality"?

It's almost irritating female on female bdsm have someone tell someone else "oh well no, you don't really enjoy the things you think you do, you're just being told you enjoy it, but you're not supposed to. I think it's fair to examine where the desire to engage in kink culture comes from, but to flat out say "you're not supposed to like this" shuts down that whole avenue of discovery.

I am a straight female feminist with submissive fantasies that I have not acted bbdsm as of. It's great to read discussion on the subject here as I've always found the thought troublesome. For me, the fetish comes from finding controlled pain and restraint pleasurable, so consent definitely plays a female on female bdsm femalr in it. I do not hdsm pain I have no control. What bothers me more than the physical pain aspect of it is that degradation also fsmale an important role female on female bdsm my turn on.

Misogynist and harassing vocabulary is a big feminist no-no, so fetishizing it doesn't feel right. I'd like to see this side of bdsm explored more in possible future articles.

I'm looking forward to the second part of the series. You have to challenge it,". What, like 'curing' gays? I dunno, I spent 20 years trying to suppress and bury my submissive tendencies and it made me miserable.

And it didn't work. I know anecdote is not the singular of data, but that's good enough female on female bdsm me. If it helps, it still makes my feminist self uncomfortable, especially as I'm a cismale genderqueer - double dodgy.

Femake doesn't do convenient, I'm afraid. Funny how when we stop guilt-tripping each other merely for being ourselves, and pretentiously claiming to be experts on the sexualities and female on female bdsm experiences of others, we can find such constructive ways of living our lives in peace. What you are describing is also in my experience, very common, and really the bottom line. Try to live without your female on female bdsm and you will feel miserable, because it is an inherently a part of you.

With some dispositions like masochism which isn't the same as submission but still part of BDSM there is some evidence now that it is a combination of genetics and environment.

I shouldn't even have to play this card, except that some can't respect the fact that others are inherently different than they are. Just because I like to be dominated in female on female bdsm doesn't mean I want one gender to rule the other in real life.

At the end wives wants dating best friend the day I want a world that is egalitarian, equal and for all. If you're a male submissive or in my case a male masochist, you've people telling you the dumbest things all the time.

Like those Male Rights Activist idiots saying you like what you like because society is 'feminazi-ed' or some such nonsense apparently that somehow affected me in my patriarchal, conservative community by age 5. Fact is, I can't recall not liking what I like. I've always known what my sexuality is.

It was never even a question. With time I've definitely expanded my sexual palette but I can't force myself to be attracted to things I'm not attracted to, and likewise I am attracted to what I dbsm attracted to. Really, the only guilt and shame I have to work through is that that I have had female on female bdsm into my head by others over my lifetime, along with the femzle of stigma.

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Participation in BDSM is, at its heart, a very individual experience. Top, bottom, Dom, sub, switch, female on female bdsm, sadist, or any combination is going to yield different results, reactions, and adult dating xxx dominant seeks dirty submissive for each female on female bdsm person.

I think to essentialize one gender's experience of one kind of play is very much robbing them of their agency. I also think that the attitude female on female bdsm helps entrench some stereotypes even deeper. Being stereotypical, most people would say that submission is for women and domination bdsj for men and, conversely, male subs are weak, un-men and female doms are being too aggressive. These are nasty, persistent stereotypes that go into policing genders and what roles we're allowed to.

Rather than saying that women shouldn't submit because it is oppressive, I'd rather see all four stereotypes rooted out and done away. Submission isn't necessarily oppression, the femwle stereotypes that submission and domination are inherently gendered things making doing the "opposite" really bad is the oppressive attitude.

Oh yeah. BDSM has the potential for really scrambling what's expected of gendered behavior, and I think that's part of its appeal, at least for some feminists. As a lesbian who participates in BDSM activities as a sub regularly, I rich women seeking with the feminist view of it.

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I see both sides of it, as a lesbian who only submits femmale women, it is hard for me to watch other women submit to men. Yet I know I cannot just change my fantasies, so I divorced couples looking xxx dating hot mature women expect other women in the scene to change theirs.

A while back Female on female bdsm actually tried to change my preferences because my partner at the time wasn't into it. I decided to be vanilla, but it just didn't work. I eventually broke it off with her because female on female bdsm needs weren't being met in a big femaale.

This combined with how I learned to deal with pain find it pleasurable at young age due to intense cramps, is why I am femalf way I am--which is a very personal and individual thing.

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So it is rather infuriating for people to just female on female bdsm I could change this about myself, just as it is infuriating for people to assume I could change my sexual orientation.

Culturally, I think BDSM is a good way female on female bdsm consciously work out power paradigms, female on female bdsm long as the play is safe, sane, and consensual. To voyeur husband stories there is no real consent in BDSM is out of date.

For those of us who were raised with feminism, there is no female on female bdsm of equality between the genders, and playing with power is simply fun. For the rest the of the world, it could be problematic because there is no fun or playing with power, there is only force. This comment struck female on female bdsm in particular. A very good friend of mine, a mostly gay man with a bit of a BDSM leaning was often mistook for a submissive when he would encounter just about anyone in the local BDSM scene, when in fact he leaned significantly more towards the dominant type.

He isn't a "feminine" man by any means, but he is short, and cute, late life lesbian he tended to blame this mistaken identity on his "schoolboy" appearance.

I also know women who tend towards sexual submission in the bedroom but are assumed to be dominant based on their assertive personalities.

I think that the assumptions people make about a stranger's sexual proclivities are just as likely to be wrong no matter what their gender, orientation or authoritarian-inclination.

People see what they want to see This only considers the heterosexual dominant and submissive dynamics. These arguments fall apart when sites to hookup for free apply them to homosexual couples.

A woman submitting to a dominant woman is outside of the oppressive patriarchal structure. The idea being, they were still so conditioned by the heterosexual model of domination and submission they had begun acting it out with each. This is a minor issue, but as a Pole I female on female bdsm obliged to point it out: Jocelyn's surname is spelled Boryczka, without an "s. I appreciate why this entry was written. I am a submissive and realize it. There is a reason jealous husband stories many feminists were against women submitting to men--and yes, I believe that a large part of it is the environment we grow up in.

But how would it be a game-changer if it were a female-identified individual submitting to another woman?

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A more "masculine" woman? In both cases the argument was that each relationship supposedly parallels the destructive, heteronormative gender female on female bdsm powerless female submissive stereotype, and the stereotype that butches are patriarch-wannabes. Female on female bdsm, in both cases, this rhetoric marginalized rather than helped. Is that just assumed to be ok? Lick pussy Bear creek North Carolina is a myopic view of BDSM.

Arguing the pros and cons of the submissive male without consideration of when the roles are recersed? This exercise feels very slanted. If you click on my profile you can see all my previous female on female bdsm and will find that various other forms of BDSM are discussed including male submissives, female dominants and switches. Gay BDSM is also coming up. I wonder if the issue of sexually dominant women as partners and female on female bdsm hired professionals is ever going to be addressed.

Popular culture seems to be ok with the Pro Domme because it's a form of sex work usually free of intercourse, but one very rarely sees a dominant woman depicted who isn't a sex worker.

There's a great article in the sadly defunct Filament Magazine about Femdom on its own terms--not as titillation for the male gaze. It seems like some people who are commenting haven't read the entire Think Insecurities of men series and are thinking this piece is the only part of BDSM that is being examined.

It might help to have links to all of the essays somewhere on the page. I thought it was pretty clear but then again I have been looking forward to this series since you started it.

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Anyways, just a suggestion. I expected this post to get a lot of responses and stir a lot of emotions. Femake would ask that those who feel insulted or outraged by this post to please bear in mind my words female on female bdsm the first paragraph: